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Dating past 30....

...some sort of cruel prank, I'm guessing. The slews of unemployed, living with their parents, married or ex-con men out there is staggering. I tell you this from a mixture of personal experience, and from close observation of a very close friend. ( who is moving away tomorrow to get her PhD., but she should be back in about three years )An intelligent and grounded woman can enter the " dating scene " with only the best of intentions and expectations, yet leave the whole experience with only half of her intelligence intact and her self confidence slightly tainted.
Now, I don't expect to find a "perfect" man. I don't really believe that this enigma actually exists. But come on now....how about a decent guy without any weird hang-ups, wives or criminal backgrounds. My friend C has been dating proactively since her only child turned 17. She has been in a couple of really good relationships....until she met the wives ! Right now she is in a relationship ( a wonderful one, according to her ) with an ex con who lives with his mom and is not allowed to drive. But she sees the best in him. He lives with his mom to help her out, and he's paid his debt to society, and he'll get his drivers license back after he's done with probation. So who am I to judge, right ?
I've been dating V for 5 months now. He tells me that he loves me all the time. He rubs my feet, spends money on me freely, does the dishes without being asked to do so after I cook. He's a hard worker with a stable job and decent income. He wants to spend the rest of his life with me.....and he is a co-dependent personality. He is jealous of my son to the point of challenging him to periodic testosterone battles. He is jealous if I sit next to a friend at a get-together rather than sit next to, or on him. He is so afraid of being alone that as soon as we argue he runs to the computer to contact all the single women in the US that he can find. ( within reason, of course )So why bother, you may ask. Well, that's what I want to know. He said that he will do anything to salvage our relationship. He will go to counseling, he has deleted all women from his online accounts, he wants to change himself, better himself, do anything possible to save our relationship. Sounds good, doesn't it? Sounds like crap, doesn't it? So I ask you....how much do we take..forgive..accept..believe?